To The Ones That Stay: How To Support Grieving Parents
child loss / grief / healing / infant loss

To The Ones That Stay: How To Support Grieving Parents

Because grief is so varied and personal, there is no “normal” or “right” way to grieve, except to feel your way through it. This means people actively trying to move through and express their pain show it in a wide variety of ways outside of the behaviors people are used to seeing. We aren’t “Fine” and everyone knows it. Continue reading

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Forboding Joy

Trigger warning: child loss When my father died,  there came a cold, permanent reminder that sometimes, life is too short, and that death can come far too unpredictably, too soon. With Patrick’s death came the reality that my best, most difficult, lengthy, impassioned efforts that I couldn’t possibly care more about or pour more of … Continue reading

activism / child loss / community / inspiration / love / music / patpatforever / philanthropy / progress / SUDC

Use Your Voice: The Sing for SUDC Challenge

You have been nominated! Don’t worry, I’m not asking you to simultaneously freeze your ass off and waste water- in fact I’m asking you to use something you already have so it doesn’t go to waste. We’re all familiar with the ALS ice bucket challenge by now- it’s popularity has raised over $100 million dollars … Continue reading

child loss / friends / grief / loss / patpatforever / personal crap / progress / sisters

Small Graces in Small Places

  It was about a week after Patrick’s death that I chose to stop taking anti-depressants. What I was taking was wiping my mind clean every few minutes and I still have very few memories of the days immediately surrounding that time. I know I was surrounded by friends and flowers and well-wishes, but I … Continue reading

child loss / community / compassion / connectivity / friends / gratitude / grief / holidays / love / patpatforever / personal crap / triggers

More Lessons in Vulnerability

So this is what happens when I try to sit down and write in the morning: “_____________________ … Shit. I can’t think. Maybe it will help if I light some candles. Okay. I’m going to do this. Here goes. Open Firefox aaannnd… Facebook! Wait shit, no, not Facebook. Songza. Okay. ‘Downtempo Instrumentals’ sounds good, I hope … Continue reading

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R.I.P. Cashy Hyde. To Infinity… and Beyond.

I am devastated. A friend I’ve met through Facebook and blogging- whose story has been on my to-write-about list for months, just lost her son this evening. I saw a Facebook update from her asking for prayers a little over an hour ago, then saw this tweet half an hour later: Followed by this update: … Continue reading